How to Get a Girlfriend?
Will take some thought and legwork by you. Finding that perfect hot girlfriend does not come easy.
Are you a bit shy, lacking self confidence, and wondering how to get a girlfriend? Are you lonely and confused when it comes to dating and understanding women. You are not alone in your quest find a hot girlfriend.
If you would like to find a girlfriend or learn how to be more successful with women, I would suggest you subscribe to our free dating newsletter. In this dating newsletter, I answer your questions and give you tips on how to find and get the most beautiful women.
Your goal should be to get good at meeting women so you do not have to “settle” for any girlfriend who comes along. In order to get the best girlfriend, you must know – what you want in that hot girlfriend?
What do you want when it comes to dating and women? Do you want to get a girlfriend? Do you want to have a one-night stand? Do you want a date for Friday night? What is it? It is amazing to me that most guys don’t sit down and think about what exactly they want in there dating life, and life in general.
In fact, I would recommend you take out a pen and paper, and write down what it is that you want in regards to getting a girlfriend. Be very specific and clear. What does she look like? Does she dressy sexy? What kind of body does she have? Does she have nice lips? What color is her hair? What does she like to do? What type of personality and characteristics are important to you in regards to finding your perfect girlfriend?
Sign and date this document. This is an important moment in your dating life. You are now on a mission to get a girlfriend. Often times, the reason we do not get what we want, is because we never take the time to be specific about what that is. Our subconscious mind cannot distinguish between what is real and what is imagined. So picture yourself finding your perfect girlfriend and as you walk through life keep your eyes open for her. You cannot find or get a hot girlfriend unless you know exactly what you are looking for.
So, you now have a clear idea of what kind of girlfriend or dating situation you are seeking. Congratulations! You have just taken an action towards finding that perfect hot girlfriend.
You have just done something that 99% of all men will never do. Most men leave their chances up to luck when it comes to women and getting a hot girlfriend. Don’t be one of those guys! If you put a little thought into what you want in life, you have a much better chance at acquiring it.
I will leave you with one of my favorite quotes. “Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason so few engage in it.” ~ Henry Ford
Good luck in your quest to get a girlfriend. If you found this how to find a girlfriend article helpful, please post a comment.
May 16th, 2007 at 5:58 am
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June 2nd, 2007 at 3:13 pm
hi,
My names are Williams Start. I would like to have a girl friend .
Presently am in Austria.And am black in completion.
thanks.,
looking forward to hear from you.
williams.
June 8th, 2007 at 7:36 pm
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June 12th, 2007 at 1:43 pm
I’ve tried internet dating, but she turned out to be a man. So after that i’ve been just too depressed, I just want a woman that is a woman! I’ve never had a girlfriend, and if I leave the house, im afraid people will laugh at me. This is a very serious problem, please someone help me.
September 11th, 2007 at 8:50 am
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October 6th, 2007 at 8:14 pm
LOL, why would you be afraid of people laughing at you when you leave your house. Are you seriously ugly?
I’m wondering how and why I’ve come to this page, but I do see the “write down what you want” as somewhat useful. Although it will help you with identifying a girl, it will not go beyond that…
Interesting, nonetheless.
October 19th, 2007 at 5:39 am
i want a good girlfriend
i have already tryed many times but have not found the perfect hot girl friend.
so, if i get a good girl friend. i will mainten my life happily and peace.
thanks
samir
October 19th, 2007 at 6:55 pm
Just like when you learn to ride a bike you fall off but you must get back on. To get good at dating girls you have to become comfortable around women. After you have spent time with a few of them you will find the girlfriend who is right for you. It is a process but you have to have fun along the way.
Fletcher who cares if people laugh at you??? It sounds like you need to work on yourself. You have to be confident and love yourself before you can attract women.
November 21st, 2007 at 5:05 pm
hi im looking for a hot girlfriend i am sporty i play football for huntend rangers school football team and birmingham city please reply
December 4th, 2007 at 8:29 pm
hi my name is sohail and i am serching a good girlfireand
now i am living in herat
thanks
i am waiting for you
December 6th, 2007 at 10:22 am
Hello
I want to have a girlfriend but i see two probloms 1- Iam shying to tell a girl that i want her 2-i can’t find gf through website because i don’t want to show my pic on website. if any one have give me any suggestion, i will thankful from him/her.
December 19th, 2007 at 9:51 am
hi friend want a nice female for friendship. I donot have time of fun but i want keep touch with fun in Pakistan, Islamabad.
January 8th, 2008 at 6:01 pm
hi my name is Laeeq Ahmad i want one gril friend in pakistan. i am 18 and sweet .
January 8th, 2008 at 6:15 pm
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April 11th, 2008 at 5:16 pm
I believe that most men would think that this advice was written by a girl, but so far, even tough it’s hard to follow, it’s truth full, it’s a verry good advice.
thanks a lot to that person who wrote it.
April 12th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Hi Jerry,
We are glad you liked the advice on how to get a girlfriend. If you have any other questions about women you can ask here, http://www.thesage-speaks.com/forums/forum/dating-questions-for-men
April 29th, 2008 at 9:48 am
Hi All,
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May 28th, 2008 at 7:31 am
Hello
I want to have a girlfriend but i see two probloms 1- Iam shying to tell a girl that i want her 2-i can’t find gf through website because i don’t want to show my pic on website. if any one have give me any suggestion, i will thankful from him/her.
May 28th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
You can become less shy by becoming confident and getting use to approaching women.
You will have to do this if you do not want to meet women online.
July 15th, 2008 at 4:59 pm
HI,I’m mike I’m so glad I tried this advice and now I have the MOST HOTTEST girlfriend I’ve ever had.
July 30th, 2008 at 6:29 pm
Hi, I have read what you said and I must say thank you. Just reading this has boosted my confidence having this knowlage. Thank you. Ps I am looking for a girl in Australia.
August 30th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Everyone is walking around with girlfriends. Even guys who are not as attractive as me have amazing girls who are so beautiful. I see these couples everywhere. I’m not ugly, not short, not fat, not bald, not stupid, but I guess I just dont know how to do it. I wish I knew how to get a girlfriend. That would be so amazing.
September 6th, 2008 at 7:13 pm
@ Tangoguy – Checkout this post http://www.thesage-speaks.com/that-women-is-beautiful-how-did-he-end-up-with-her/
September 13th, 2008 at 4:56 am
Heres a thought, I’m just going to throw this out here… get off your computers and go find a girlfriend rather than making an excuse as to why you don’t have one! It’s not rocket science, meet a girl and talk to her… remember “it took edison 1000 tries to make the light bulb glow, but he only needed one correct way to make it work” Girls love guys that try and never give up… just because some relationships don’t workout doesn’t mean the next one won’t. It just sucks because while you’re all here whinning about wanting a girlfriend… you just missed out on your “perfect girlfriend” walking up the street!!! So get the heck out there and GOODLUCK!!!!!
October 9th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
lets dive deep!
On the surface of the water, Everything looks all the same to you until you dive deep: that is when you realize everything is not so simple. Lets go see some sea weeds!
I am not a love expert but based on my experiences I believe that I can actually help some folks who has no clue on how to begin his journey start strong and finish satisfy.
step 1:
-Make a list of positive things about yourself (build your confidence)
-Make a list of characteristics of your future girlfriend that you want her to be/have. (realistic and be more specific)
step 2:
-Put yourself into the crowd of people
note: why in the crowd of people?
In a place with few girls and high number of men, even ugly girls are hard to get.
-Be socialize
note: If you go out there and only talk to HOT girl, then you are not learning to ride a bicyle but a motorcyle.
note: Keep in mind that pretty girls already have a lot of experience because they have so many men flirt with them posibly daily. So they can turn you down right away if they are not interest in you or relationship and this could kill your confidence. Talk to all the girls is what socialize means–talk to everyone including man and kids. Doing that will somehow over time gives you a connection to other people that you meet or even haven’t meet. This is very important step because It is the complicated one if you are looking for miss “Hot/perfect”.
-Be Ambitious
note: You have seen pretty girl like to hang out with ugly/okay girlfriend, why? Have you seen 2 pretty girls hang out together, why?…It would take a whole book to explain everything so lets make it simple. Ex: 2 girls walk in the mall, 1 is hot and 2nd 1 is okay looking. 1st option: you come and start a conversation with the hot 1 is just too normal! 2 choices that make them thinks that you are not looking and desperate by start a conversation with both of them and talk a 3 way conversation and slowly get more involve with the “Hot” one. 2nd option: talk to the okay 1 and maybe the “Hot” 1 will start asking question like why is he not interest in me but that ugly girl? this can draw her into the conversation. “play the game though you may be serious.”
step 3:
Closing the sell
note: The purpose for your conversation with the girl is not just talks but make them interest in you somehow even if just a little bit. In the end, ask for their phone number.
This is a guide for beginers. As you do these things, you will gain experience and you will get a dream girl. even if you fail, it still benefit you in someway for your life.
by Vietboy
October 14th, 2008 at 5:32 am
This article, as someone else accurately pointed out, doesn’t go beyond identifying the type of girlfriend a person is seeking.
It clearly DOES NOT help in finding a hot girlfriend.
One tip I can offer is to make 500 business cards and ONLY hand them out to hot chicks on a daily basis, after telling them how pretty they are but WITHOUT asking for their number. Someone WILL call you back. And it will be a hot chick.
October 14th, 2008 at 10:33 am
@David – giving your cards especially to hot chicks will leave you disappointed. If you are only remotely interested in speaking to a girl again, you must get her number. Most girls will not take the initiative to make contact with you.
December 15th, 2008 at 10:06 am
Sage- I beg to differ.
Let’s consider two possible situations:
A. You do nothing or simply socialize with random people as $1 suggests. You start small talk with hot chicks and discover a nominally high failure rate in doing so. All the while having your ego shot to swiss cheese (assuming you aren’t the typical out going hot shot most attractive women are looking for).
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B. You hand out 500 business cards to any woman you find attractive and walk away. No confrontation, no unnessasary small talk, no rejection, and no awkwardness. You leave her in control, and her asking the questions. If she doesn’t bite, it’s no big deal. If she does bite you are now in the power position and can dictate what happens next.
It sure beats doing nothing about it or setting your self worth on fire.
-kite
March 14th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
hi, this is john from the philippines:-) ive been combing all over the internet for material like this, & id say your input is helpful, although i myt add that i 4 1 am not looking for a hot girlfriend, coz im not that hot myself. good enuf-looking maybe,but not that hot.wat im looking for is a girlfriend i wud actually love my entire life,so much so that i wud marry her,and hopefully she’ll decide that way too.
ive read the responses so far and im somewhat relieved, and saddened, that im not the only one facing this problem.
you know for us guys,we’re punished if we show any kind of ignorance on anything. unlike girls who can have their girl talk, we will be mercilessly pecked on by our peers if we appear not man enough. they will say somthing like, “what? you dont know this crap? its so simple, youre supposed to know it by instinct.” how can we be man enough if we are kept in the dark?!
ive spent the last 20 years with a low self esteem,so you can believe me wen i say that i can relate to these guys, that is, until 2005 arrived.
by 2005 i was so fed up (take note,i have reached my bottom, a pt. of no return,a turning pt.,of sorts) that I DECIDED (take note,i made an active choice,versus passive choice) to take steps to have a better self confidence,becoz i cant go on like this,i have to become better,i am capable of so much more than this,i am a child of the Supreme Being of this existence(if you want to live,at least,for the next 1 million years,even without your body,you better include Him in your life equation).
so i decided to improve my life.
i figured i cud do this by improving it,one aspect at a time.
in 2005 i started going to the gym for my physical aspect.after that i took up masters in commerce for my mental aspect.a year later i joined a local religious org for my spiritual(take note,not religious)aspect.now im sharpening my social and emotional aspect(i am still doing all of these as of this writing,2009:03:15).
its fucking arduous,and i dont have a needleneck mentor to keep me on track,unlike bruce wayne who has alfred pennyworth,and his gazillon dollars.i get distracted by all the “colorful toys” i see around me all the time,but i figured that if i want to be my best version,i have to have the tenacity necessary to hurdle this.
right now youre looking at a work in progress,and i dont know how long its gonna take me to reach my full potential,maybe my entire life,but as long as im alive i will always take steps so that my breathing will not be such a waste after all.
i just shared my input so that i cud give other guys an idea about the trial and error of other people, namely mine.its not the most superior one,its downright inefficient,but if my input can help even just one person out there,then maybe i wud have succeeded in sharing this to another.if only someone else had shared their input with me.but as a good guidance counselor once told me,”you are being reactive,why not be proactive?”
March 18th, 2009 at 4:26 am
no matter what I do, I will never get a girlfriend, just because i’m freaking ugly, and besides that, i’m getting bald, what a luck! And also, guess what, shyness is my second name. Damn…
March 24th, 2009 at 7:18 pm
Hey Ive liked this girl ever since I came to this school but I just found out my best friend is going out with her tomorrow and I don’t no what to do cause she is the only girl I’ve ever liked.what should I do???
March 26th, 2009 at 8:30 am
hey buddy, i’m ugly too! it’s all good man. Just be confident with girls.. improve what you can and smile(even if your smile sux like mine) they like confidence and personality.. Looks is just the cherry on top my man
talk to ladies, overcome shyness, boost confidence = pimp
March 30th, 2009 at 2:40 am
I had a gf i took her 4 granted she wuz good 2 me she always told me if i ever needed her she would b there well 2months ago i went 2 jail that nite she told me she would wait 4 me i wuz released on bail sometime later an i found out she had been cheating on me about a 3days prior 2 my arrest i wuz heart broken inside my heart wuz crushed but i never tol anyone after we started talkin it out an everythin an about 2weeks or a little more she wuz doin it again once again my one tru love had only broken my heart ever since then i have been f**ked up an not no wut 2 do wen girls try talkin 2 me its hard b cuz i think of my ex an its hard 4 me 2 move on bcuz she was my 1st love. well i guess my point 2 this is if u have someone speacial hold on 2 it dont go down the path i did n if u think she’s geat get 2 no her n make sure she aint cheatin. P.S. i didnt write this 4 ppl 2 feel bad jus 2 let ppl no if they have somthin special hold on 2 it.
April 3rd, 2009 at 2:03 pm
hi..!!, this is Christan from the philippines:-) ive been combing all over the internet for material like this, & id say your input is helpful, although my hight is 5`2-5`4 am not looking for a hot girlfriend, coz im not that hot myself. good enuf-looking maybe,but not that hot.wat im looking for is a girlfriend i wud actually love my entire life,so much so that i wud marry her,and hopefully she’ll decide that way too.
i was so fed up (take note,i have reached my bottom, a pt. of no return,a turning pt.,of sorts) that I DECIDED (take note,i made an active choice,versus passive choice) to take steps to have a better self confidence,becoz i cant go on like this,i have to become better,i am capable of so much more than this,i am a child of the Supreme Being of this existence(if you want to live,at least,for the next 1 million years,even without your body,you better include Him in your life equation).
April 9th, 2009 at 4:45 am
I no what I’m looking for in a girl but I had a few girls ask me out should I just take my chances wit them or jus keep looking for that girl? N wen I c a girl that I like would it b weird to jus come outta no where n say wats up?
May 12th, 2009 at 12:37 am
hi im jon i had my chance 2 have a hot girlfriend an i blew it by asking to kiss her. im a quiet type so please help me come out of my shell and make me the person i want to be if you get thanks for reading.
May 20th, 2009 at 1:06 am
Do What I do. Just go up to a hot girl and ask her out. chicks dig confidence. or compliment her and walk away. chicks dig compliments if they dont think you are hitting on them.
August 14th, 2009 at 4:09 am
I would like to meet a beautiful, gorgeous woman that is smart and kind. I’m looking for a girl that has morals and takes care of herself. One that has a great personallity and aint “stuck up” or, in other words – conceited. I like to go out and have fun and do things and that’s what I want. I want a relationship that will last forever, the love of my life, my best friend in the whole world and last but not least, my future loving wife that I would do anything in the world for
January 13th, 2010 at 3:02 am
Jeezus are u freaken kidding me??? No wounder you guys don’t have girlfriends. Your probably all nerds that now chick would ever date. Advise: bath regularlly to get rid of achne, try not to be shy and quite playing video games. Chicks hate video games, at least the hot ones. Hope that helps.