How to Approach a Woman
How to approach women is a question I often encounter. I would recommend you read my blog post about what woman find attractive in men first.
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In order to approach women, you will have to your life and head together. You will have to be totally confident and comfortable with your current life-style.
When approaching beautiful women, there are no perfect pick-up lines. I don’t like the connation associated with pick-up lines. How can you want to pick-up a woman you have not spoken to? She might be beautiful and have a great body, but trust me; if she is not beautiful on the inside you will be sick of her in five minutes.
To approach women the correct mindset to have is, “I wonder if she is my type?” So instead of having an anxiety-induced pick-up mindset, you are simply qualifying this woman as a person. Is she someone worth getting to know? Is she funny? Is she a great conversationalist? This is the frame of mind you should adopt when meeting women. You should be the choosy in your interactions with women. Don’t settle for a woman who does not add value to your current life.
Will Women Approach Me?
If you use a pick-up when a women approaches, you probably just shot yourself in the leg. You are much better off making a situational comment. If you have a sense of humor, use your imagination and add some comedy to the situation.
I am here to tell you that it really does not matter what you say when you approach women. Communication experts tell us most of communication, up to 93% is non-verbal. So in human communication, only 7% of communication is the words you use. The other 93% of communication is made up of body language, gestures and vocal tone.
Always make eye contact during your initial contact. You must give these women 100% of your attention. So learn to be an active listener. Use what she says to open up new threads of conversation.
Here are some conversation starters to help you approach women:
Book store – If she is looking at book. You best buy my book it is fabulous.
Coffee shop – You know where I can get some cotton candy around here?
Super Market – Do you know how to pick the perfect kumquat?
Bar/Lounge – I like this place have you been here before? What other places you enjoy going to?
Most of these openers are silly. I would deliver them with a smirk.
You should always be ready to strike up a conversation with women. You daily errands and work life bring you in contact with many people. If you have to, come up with some default conversation starters you can use in any situation.
I would recommend you check out some of Leil Lowndes books. She will help you gain the confidence you need, to approach beautiful women everywhere. She is an excellent author and speaker on starting conversations, romantic encounters, and she gives tips on how to approach women. This is a great book which ties into what we were speaking about, How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships.
I want to drive home the fact it does not matter what you say, but how you say it. Attitude is everything! Good luck in your quest to approach women.
December 25th, 2006 at 11:08 pm
i need some conversation tips to approach women
April 3rd, 2007 at 1:14 am
Thank you for your inforamation it was helpful
June 20th, 2007 at 3:05 pm
hi , iam confident with my body but i never pick the right things to
say and i always giv in to qiuck and sound desperate
July 20th, 2007 at 1:23 pm
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September 18th, 2007 at 3:24 pm
please help me to get with a girl i have feelings for, and which i believe she has fellings for me too.
February 13th, 2008 at 11:05 pm
this are very nice tips keep it up
August 18th, 2008 at 5:41 am
Hey, I’ve done these in the past but it seems that these women become too friendly with me and become too comfortable that they seem more like good friends rather than one to go into a relationship with. How would you change this situation, or new commers into my life, I’m too friendly I think, and just hang out with them and talk about anything, they are just too comfortable. Help me out here
August 18th, 2008 at 2:34 pm
You have to show sexual interest from the get-go. If you don’t show sexual interest (within the first or second time you hang out), then you will get into the friends zone. Once you are there, it is almost impossible to hook up with these girls.
December 1st, 2008 at 8:57 pm
hi, am a guy of 19yrs old, my problem is that i don’t knw how to approach girls, i have d courage, but is jus that each time i try to approach them, i don’t know what to say or how to start a conversation, even the one’s i talk to is either i meet them thru friends or that ve tried to approach them but failed and each time i see them, i wld say hi with shyness and pass by…. pls help me out my friends are mocking and i need to have a g/f within d next 1 week and 3 days coz i beted with a friend of mine….. actually d reason 4 d bet is dat dere’s dis muslim girl i like so much, and am scared to approach her coz am a christain guy and ilearnt dat if u r not a muslim ur chances are slim, so i tot of a spectacular thing to do and i came up with d idea of doing her potriat, i ve d potriat with me now but i don’t knw d next step to take, pls help me… if u can snd any tips to me within d next 18 hrs i wld be most grateful thanks….
February 5th, 2009 at 12:03 am
i picked up this fine lookin chick the other day and i did by u sing sign language than she thought i was deaf so she started to try and say she dosnt kno sign language with her hand
than i cut her off by saying “i kno u dont kno sign language i dont either i just wanted to see u try” she started laughing and there i cracked the ice
after a lil talking she hinted to me she was hungry by saying “im so tired and i haven’t eaten all day” that was my Q and than and there i asked her to join me for dinner and later that night we went back to her place and she left to work the next morning a happy lady
we Ex # and now me and her have bein kickin it off for 5 month
February 5th, 2009 at 1:20 am
Nice job Motah! That is money! You can be really silly when breaking the ice. Good luck with your girl.
May 10th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
i need a direct answer on how to aproach a woman, as a man will face different challenge on these question.
May 27th, 2009 at 5:39 pm
WOW, seems simple enough — funny, witty…reject them because they aren’t used to it, and they see it as a challenge! Actually works! I met this girl, super hotty, at a bar last month, just by chance, and played with her head, telling her, “Ya know, if you were just a little bit cuter, I think I’d ask you to buy me a drink.” She did! And later followed up with, “My friend thinks I should go on a date with you, because your cute.” Of course I smiled and walked off LOL Then two weeks later — dog gotta bone — didn’t cost me a dime AND no time of my own.
August 17th, 2009 at 6:30 am
Is this a good ice breaker? “How much does a polar bear weigh?… Enough to break the ice.” I overheard a friend of mine telling someone to use this line. Not sure how it came out.
August 17th, 2009 at 12:36 pm
It does not really matter what you say. Only 7% of communication is the words which come out of your mouth. As long as your are confident and say it jokingly you can say whatever. Say the first thing which comes to your mind. If you wait too long you will probably puss out.
September 19th, 2009 at 11:30 am
There is a great guide about approaching to women
Check it out at http://getwomen.wordpress.com
July 16th, 2010 at 10:03 pm
i approached this beautiful girl name Luisa at a bus stop and I said, “excuse me, can I bother u for a sec?” she said, sure. I said, a little bird told me that u are trying to get at me…wait, what? she said..a little bird told me dat u are tryin to get at me. she laughed for a bit, and said who is this lil bird? I said, if told u its name, u promise not to kill it? to make the story short, i got her number before da bus came (yay). anyways, dont use my line, be original…
August 24th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
This is absolutely correct. Attitude is everything.
September 3rd, 2010 at 7:07 am
I agree that it’s all about having a confident attitude. In the beginning it’s always a little nerve wracking to approach women you don’t know. But with time and practice it can get easier. As it get’s easier, your confidence rises. As your confidence rises you relax more and pretty soon, you’re talking and flirting with girls all over the place. Happy Hunting.