Comments on: What Women Find Attractive in Men?

By: pretty fly for a married guy

pretty fly for a married guy — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 01:28:46 +0000

I do tend to agree with the article but I think also that what lends status to a man is often that he is surrounded by women even if there is absolutely nothing going on. When I was single every pretty woman I met was putting up her defenses just as soon as I was in her vicinity but as soon as I got married it seemed like women got very relaxed around me. Beautiful women talk to me all the time now. I am constantly surrounded by beautiful women. I don’t understand the attraction these women have for me but I suspect that it is because the more women a man is surrounded by the more status women perceive him to have. It may also be the confidence I get from my wife as well.

By: paloma

paloma — Mon, 21 Sep 2009 00:45:33 +0000

ok i am a girl and i like hot guys but its true would you date someone who is hot but is the most jerkest person you,ve ever met …. no right and i also say he doesn’t have to be horrible because there are some cute and nice guys out there but it is mostly for personalilty. so make the girl feel confortable because if she likes you she gets really nervous and tries to talk to you but she feels like she is gonna mess up GOOD LUCK …

By: roadrunner

roadrunner — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 01:41:28 +0000

I also have most, if not all the qualities that Bill speaks of. It has taken years to build them up. In high school, I was standoffish and was about the last picked in sports during gym. I had girls that my sister was friends with that wondered why I never asked them out. Maturity had a lot to do with that.

Now, being 46 years old and having a few miles under my belt, and working out on a regular basis, I have learned a lot about myself. Unfortunately, my 9 year marriage will be ending soon due to many different issues, primarily not being compatible.

I agree with him that it is not all about looks, but they are important. I mean, what do us guys notice about the ladies…nice shiny hair, pretty eyes, nice build…and they initially look at us for handsome looks.

What really matters is that we are honest, nice, and know what we are after in life. Just as important, if you can’t hold a decent conversation, she will get bored. Same for her, if she has looks but cant tell you what year it is or who is president…it ain’t gonna go very far.

I also hear too much about us guys not keeping ourselves “presentable”. Come on fellas, a little soap and water, teeth whitener and a little cologne goes a long way. The clothes are just as important. Ditch the greased up jeans and ripped “T” shirts. Spend a few bucks and get something clean and descent to wear dudes.

By: bill

bill — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 07:10:36 +0000

Kamal – I agree with you 100 percent.

A. Self Confidence
B. Sense of humor
C. Intelligence
D. Status
E. Style
F. Exciting

Looks, are part of the game. But, they are not essential.

Most not all women, primarily look for the ALPHA male with all or 90 % of the key qualities above.

I hold A.S, and B.S in business and I.T. I have no problems getting women and I am not 6 ‘5. But, I show all of the qualities above and average look. I am always “SMILING” no matter what.

I ask my dates what you found attractive in me. I get one answer most “95%” of the time.

“You show CONFIDENCE. It glows on you “Bill”. “

By: Paul

Paul — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 19:19:31 +0000

Well after reading this article im a living testimonial, the A-F points have helped me numerous times. I also find honesty is a good part. Also be yourself. Don’t try to be somebody your not, what do you gain from it if you want to get the girl and she finds out you a fraud/liar. Best of Luck People

By: TheSage

TheSage — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 15:58:03 +0000

Hiya Tom – we got that topic covered here, http://www.thesage-speaks.com/how-to-approach-a-woman-at-the-gym/

By: Tom

Tom — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 14:03:01 +0000

Hey Sage, question for you and for the board for that matter (women included). So 3 or 4 times a week I see this girl at the gym I go to (on and off for past 8 months I’d say) – she’s usually finishing her workout as I’m starting mine so there’s probably only a 10-15 minute window when we’re both there. I found her attactive, and also found that we usually made eye contact at least once everytime we were there at the same time. I’ve only recently been making it a point (past month or two) to look more in her direction – and I feel she might be doing the same (wishful thinking). She seems pretty serious with her workouts (ipod, headphones, etc.) so I don’t want to bother her during her gym time, but was thinking of just approaching her as she is leaving the gym and just saying something like “Hey, I’m so-and-so, just see you here alot and wanted to say hi” and leave it at that – so it at least opens the door for convos in the future. Think this is a good approach? Thanks!

By: Freud

Freud — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 14:27:29 +0000

Similiar psychologies attract each other. Therefore, confident men attract confident women. Men with low selfesteem attract low self esteem women. Because if the psychologies are too different, one won’t be able to tolerate the other. A confident man would find an insecure woman needy and weak, total burden. A confident woman would find an insecure man a loser. Insecure men or women would feel inadequate around confident others. Therefore, you basically date or marry somebody very close to your self esteem level. If your partner is a loser, he she is really a reflection of you

By: Ryan

Ryan — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 11:20:57 +0000

Come on. I hear this all the time. Girls are attracted to guys who are hot. Sure, if the hot guy has no personality, they will not keep them, but when somebody says somebody is attractive, they are not talking about a guy with a sense of humor, or confidence. Brad Pitt (or whoever is hot) would pull a woman over a Dane Cook. That is a fact. Handsome men and women rule the roost. It is true that confident men do get women, but not over a hot guy. I am sorry, but you have to like what your looking at. Period.

By: ya

ya — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:43:31 +0000

Here’s the irony. Self-confidence may seem like a great trait, but the only thing it is really great for is convincing people. Its attractive because men who seem the most convincing in their attitudes/beliefs have convinced the most ladies in the past, and thus reproduced the most spreading their genes more. However, self-confidence is not a positive trait if it is thoroughly investigated. It creates attachment to false beliefs. I suppose if you just want to convince people, its great. but if you want truth, You need to be skeptical and open minded to everything. My conclusion: act self-confident- don’t be it.

I think this is the case with many of those traits (not intelligence). I would add competitive/aggressive to the list. Women have the most backwards wiring ever, yet we are forced to be subjected to it in the modern world, so you have to comply.